“Did you think about your bills, your ex, your deadlines
Or when you think you’re gonna die
Or did you long for the next distraction” –Alanis Morissette
I was just checking one of my three email accounts just now–for the third or fourth time this morning–when something occurred to me. We’re very fond of talking about how work or other obligations pressure us into checking our phones and our email every five seconds, and what a shame it is. And maybe there’s some truth to that explanation. But at the risk of getting all Buddhist on you, here’s another.
The pressure is coming from within, not from without.
Maybe getting a new email isn’t about fear of not responding timely, or about missing an opportunity. Maybe it’s about the fact that if there were a new email waiting it would give us something to think about, something to focus on, so we wouldn’t have to (as Alanis would have it) think about our bills, our exes, our deadlines and even our mortality.
It’s like the Buddha said: Our minds are like monkeys, jumping from one thing to another, always in action, always busy.
If you do one Zen thing today, let it be this: Don’t check your email more than necessity warrants. Be in the moment.